Can I Pick 'Em or Can't I?

[ed_rex]

I've been exchanging emails with a woman for a few weeks. A couple of days ago I actually managed to wake up early enough to call her before going in to work.

I enjoyed talking with her, we shared some laughs, some insights and generally went through the process of getting to know each other again - the way you have to, when you've started through email.

I'm intrigued and want to meet her in person.

But. But but but ...

She mentioned, apologetically, that she was eating Skittles or some similar candy. "That's okay," I said. "I didn't hear a thing."

"It's the first thing I've eaten for two days," she said.

I suggested that didn't sound all that healthy.

"I know," she said. "I'm getting really bad. I'm 5'7" and I'm down to 87 pounds."

* * *

5'7. 87 pounds.

Now, I like a slender woman as much as the next guy (okay: more than the next guy), but that sounds anorexic to me.

My brain says: "This girl is trouble. You don't know her very well. You have no obligations to her. Flee! Flee! Flee!"

But ... Well, but nothing. Mr. Brain is correct. Getting involved with her is just asking for trouble, isn't it? Isn't it?

Comments

[stephaniekaye.livejournal.com]

just let her know im a very diplomatic way that youre not interested. and thanks for her time .. you enjoyed the conversations....

i mean, shes not only annorexic, shes DANGEROUSLY underweight.

not a project i suggest you undertake. no matter HOW nice she might seem.

[ed-rex.livejournal.com]

God damn it. You're right.

It's funny how sometimes you need an outsider to remind you of what you already know.

Thanks (he said, trudging off to the dating sites again).

[stephaniekaye.livejournal.com]

and if you decide to date her anyway, we'll see how long it ta,kes before you break one of her bones in bed...
smirk

[ed-rex.livejournal.com]

The only accidental bone-breaking I want to do is on a hockey rink (I got taken out - pretty good - yesterday (though the guy tripped; we're a nice bunch). I thought for a while I was done for the game but fortunately was able to work through it.

Seriously though, I really appreciate your feedback on this. There is still a small part of me that thinks I am being selfish (hell: I am being selfish, but that isn't necessarily a wrong thing), but I really don't need to voluntarily introduce that kind of trouble into my life.

[stephaniekaye.livejournal.com]

dont call it selfishness, call it self-preservation.

[ed-rex.livejournal.com]

Yes.

Jeez, this is almost like chat. If you don't stop, I'm going to suggest you let me buy you a beer.

[stephaniekaye.livejournal.com]

i dont drink beer! :P

[ed-rex.livejournal.com]

Well, what do you drink?

Absinthe is acceptalbe;
Bourbon, beautific;
Chardonnay is charming;
Drsynki delicious,
Eglantine is euphoric

...

oh hell. I'm only up to "E" and I've already made up the names for two different boozes. Trying to get to "Z" will only humiliate me (I was going to say, "will only humiliate us both", but I stopped and thought and pictured you giggling at my expense and realized it's all about me, after all.

How do you feel about Tibetan food?

[stephaniekaye.livejournal.com]

uh?never had it.

[ed-rex.livejournal.com]

I've only had it a few times, after a Tibetan restaurant opened around the corner from me (I also learned for the first time that there is a substantial Tibetan community in Toronto; though I guess I shouldn't have been surprised, I was), but I'd describe it as almost a combination of Thai, Chinese and Indian - heavy on the meet, light on sauces, with a steamed bread on the side, rather than rice. Spicy, but not curry, lots of (I think) corriander.