What i don't understand is, why would they end up accepting invitations to lunch, flirty conversations (my situation) or the like if they are already involved with someone else.
Because there are in fact such things as platonic friendships between men and women, whether or not there is also a component to those friendships which include some amount of sexual tension.
In my world, at least, an invitation to go out for lunch - or even to get trashed at my apartment - is not quite the same as an invitation to join me in bedroom acrobatics. Although its true that such acrobatics are often at the back of my mind as a possibility.
It's almost as if you were an available option, but somewhere during lunch or earlier conversations they had decided that it would just seem fun to see you try to woo them only to come to an end with the "I'm with somebody" argument.
Well, this particular woman alluded to her partner before I suggested lunch, so what you're saying doesn't apply, I don't think.
Hmmph. Women, believers or not, are something I still have to figure out.
Rightly or wrongly, I operate under the assumption that women are people first, no more or less complicated and self-contradictary than men. It is Desire that makes the relationship between a straight man and a straight woman more complex - and which makes the opposite sex (because women say the same thing about men, I've noticed) seem so "hard to figure out.
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dancing_serpent
Re: deja vu
Date: 2007-03-05 12:53 am (UTC)Because there are in fact such things as platonic friendships between men and women, whether or not there is also a component to those friendships which include some amount of sexual tension.
In my world, at least, an invitation to go out for lunch - or even to get trashed at my apartment - is not quite the same as an invitation to join me in bedroom acrobatics. Although its true that such acrobatics are often at the back of my mind as a possibility.
It's almost as if you were an available option, but somewhere during lunch or earlier conversations they had decided that it would just seem fun to see you try to woo them only to come to an end with the "I'm with somebody" argument.
Well, this particular woman alluded to her partner before I suggested lunch, so what you're saying doesn't apply, I don't think.
Hmmph. Women, believers or not, are something I still have to figure out.
Rightly or wrongly, I operate under the assumption that women are people first, no more or less complicated and self-contradictary than men. It is Desire that makes the relationship between a straight man and a straight woman more complex - and which makes the opposite sex (because women say the same thing about men, I've noticed) seem so "hard to figure out.