Quite seriously, I can't answer your questions because I have no idea what I thought I knew about her was true and what wasn't.
(Since this conversation is starting to skew more towards Laura than myself, I've just set this entry to friends-only.)
Sexually, Laura was (and presumably still is) a submissive and a masochist.
Nevertheless, back in August of 2005, she started working at a "dungeon" as a professional dominatrix (or so she told me). I wasn't what you would call happy with the arrangement, but the hourly rate was quadrupal my own and she seemed to enjoy her work - who was I to complain?
What she didn't tell me was that she was actually working as a "switch" - ie, a dom or a sub, depending on the client. And most of the clients wanted subs.
What she also didn't tell me was that she really like the latter. In essence, she was a (kinky) prostitute, but didn't bother to tell me so.
(And now you may better understand my relief last fall, when my tests all came back negative.)
If she has in fact, turned her back on that life, than I can see how she would see making one-tenth her previous hourly wage constitutes a step up.
I don't have a moral problem with prostitution, but I think it's the sort of thing it is very difficult to get into for the "right reasons".
So, leaving aside the fact she spent 2 years lying to me about everything that matters, your question - "How bad a lifestyle was she living..." - is really dependent on what she now thinks/feels is right and good.
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dancing_serpent
Re: Oh My ...
Date: 2007-02-23 02:40 am (UTC)(Since this conversation is starting to skew more towards Laura than myself, I've just set this entry to friends-only.)
Sexually, Laura was (and presumably still is) a submissive and a masochist.
Nevertheless, back in August of 2005, she started working at a "dungeon" as a professional dominatrix (or so she told me). I wasn't what you would call happy with the arrangement, but the hourly rate was quadrupal my own and she seemed to enjoy her work - who was I to complain?
What she didn't tell me was that she was actually working as a "switch" - ie, a dom or a sub, depending on the client. And most of the clients wanted subs.
What she also didn't tell me was that she really like the latter. In essence, she was a (kinky) prostitute, but didn't bother to tell me so.
(And now you may better understand my relief last fall, when my tests all came back negative.)
If she has in fact, turned her back on that life, than I can see how she would see making one-tenth her previous hourly wage constitutes a step up.
I don't have a moral problem with prostitution, but I think it's the sort of thing it is very difficult to get into for the "right reasons".
So, leaving aside the fact she spent 2 years lying to me about everything that matters, your question - "How bad a lifestyle was she living..." - is really dependent on what she now thinks/feels is right and good.