I'll tell you a story, and then you can decide for yourself...
When I was working on Hockeyville, there was a guy that I worked with who was a good... 25 years older than me. But we really clicked as people. He was super fun to hang out with... and being on location, there were only so many people that you could hang out with from night to night. We were slightly flirty, and I actually told him a lot about my love life.
Anyway... it was all fun :) So, one day in the summer, after Hockeyville was over, we decided to do dinner and a movie. He treated me to the movie (I tried to pay, but he wouldn't let me... I think I bought snacks) ... and then instead of going out for dinner, he decided to make me BBQ on his smoker back at his place (we had many discussions about the smoker LOL) ... this whole scene developed with neighbours calling firetrucks and whatnot (don't ask LOL) but he called me over to where he was standing, further in the apartment... and then asked if he could kiss me. I said I didn't think that would be a good idea, because we might have to work together in the future, etc etc. At that point, we hadn't eaten dinner yet. I'm not sure why, but through dinner, he decided to make me *completely* uncomfortable, though I tried not to let on... I would laugh 'n stuff, by saying stuff about how he wanted to fuck me, and how I'd be a great lay, and all this other stuff. I was pretty floored, cause I *SO* wasn't expecting that.
Anyway, for me, it wasn't a huge deal. I pretty much forgot about it within a day or so. But every time I emailed him after that (I sent maybe 1-3 over the past 4-5 months or something) he never wrote back.
So, honestly... I really don't know the answer to your question. Maybe it makes me a tease that I was being flirty with him, etc, but when it came down to it, wasn't open to something actually happening? Maybe I thought we were both on the exact same page, and I didn't think it would actually come to a head? Maybe once you cross the line, there's no going back? Who knows...
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Date: 2006-11-21 03:36 am (UTC)When I was working on Hockeyville, there was a guy that I worked with who was a good... 25 years older than me. But we really clicked as people. He was super fun to hang out with... and being on location, there were only so many people that you could hang out with from night to night. We were slightly flirty, and I actually told him a lot about my love life.
Anyway... it was all fun :) So, one day in the summer, after Hockeyville was over, we decided to do dinner and a movie. He treated me to the movie (I tried to pay, but he wouldn't let me... I think I bought snacks) ... and then instead of going out for dinner, he decided to make me BBQ on his smoker back at his place (we had many discussions about the smoker LOL) ... this whole scene developed with neighbours calling firetrucks and whatnot (don't ask LOL) but he called me over to where he was standing, further in the apartment... and then asked if he could kiss me. I said I didn't think that would be a good idea, because we might have to work together in the future, etc etc.
At that point, we hadn't eaten dinner yet. I'm not sure why, but through dinner, he decided to make me *completely* uncomfortable, though I tried not to let on... I would laugh 'n stuff, by saying stuff about how he wanted to fuck me, and how I'd be a great lay, and all this other stuff. I was pretty floored, cause I *SO* wasn't expecting that.
Anyway, for me, it wasn't a huge deal. I pretty much forgot about it within a day or so. But every time I emailed him after that (I sent maybe 1-3 over the past 4-5 months or something) he never wrote back.
So, honestly... I really don't know the answer to your question. Maybe it makes me a tease that I was being flirty with him, etc, but when it came down to it, wasn't open to something actually happening? Maybe I thought we were both on the exact same page, and I didn't think it would actually come to a head? Maybe once you cross the line, there's no going back? Who knows...