You said she told you she has a boyfriend. That is your answer. Simple.
... she also said, "...she considers herself polyamorous." Which, I think adds a whole layer of complexity to an already delicate pastry. (Ahem.)
For example, if she gets involved with you and you are head over heels with her and she no longer "has" a bf, will you ever trust her?
That is a valid, and very important, question. If he doesn't know she is polyamorous, then, probably not.
I should say stop looking for love in all the wrong places. Go out with women- date, share dinner, movies but don't expect every date to be the beginning of a love affair that in reality you are making sure won't hapen. Are you really ready?
In my defence, I wasn't looking for love, right place or wrong. This is a person whose company I have enjoyed tremendously on fewer than a half-dozen occasions; and for whom I feel a sexual attraction.
The more I think about it (and, by the way, I haven't been obsessing, quite), the more I think I should have. It is the might-have-beens and what-ifs that I regret most when I look back on my life.
Think back over all your past beginnings. Did you ever have to plan it? Or did "it" just happen?
Almost always, "it" just happened. And by "just happened", I mean the women in question were forced - by my unbelievable cowardice/politeness (call it what you will) to make their interest explicit. Considering that, in our culture, men are expected to make the first move, I am probably lucky I'm not still a virgin.
Re: You asked for answers, sorry
You said she told you she has a boyfriend. That is your answer. Simple.
... she also said, "...she considers herself polyamorous." Which, I think adds a whole layer of complexity to an already delicate pastry. (Ahem.)
For example, if she gets involved with you and you are head over heels with her and she no longer "has" a bf, will you ever trust her?
That is a valid, and very important, question. If he doesn't know she is polyamorous, then, probably not.
I should say stop looking for love in all the wrong places. Go out with women- date, share dinner, movies but don't expect every date to be the beginning of a love affair that in reality you are making sure won't hapen. Are you really ready?
In my defence, I wasn't looking for love, right place or wrong. This is a person whose company I have enjoyed tremendously on fewer than a half-dozen occasions; and for whom I feel a sexual attraction.
The more I think about it (and, by the way, I haven't been obsessing, quite), the more I think I should have. It is the might-have-beens and what-ifs that I regret most when I look back on my life.
Think back over all your past beginnings. Did you ever have to plan it? Or did "it" just happen?
Almost always, "it" just happened. And by "just happened", I mean the women in question were forced - by my unbelievable cowardice/politeness (call it what you will) to make their interest explicit. Considering that, in our culture, men are expected to make the first move, I am probably lucky I'm not still a virgin.